DONE – Don’t do this.

Don’t do this:

Don’t do this, either:

Self-marginalization in any form is never wise.

Anything you do, anything about you that distances yourself from the mainstream, is like to cost you — literally.  In dollars and cents.  And it may cost a lot.

Disfiguring yourself may gratify a desire to be unique or special or to stand out; but your arrogance or vanity puts an obstacle in front of anyone who might hire you, if your appearance itself is prone to frighten people.  This may be more important in some fields than others:  facial tattoos will make it hard for anyone to hire you for positions dealing with the public, such as retail or customer service or schoolteacher or bus driver.  It will also keep you from advancing into management, as management entails much face-to-face contact with the people you need to lead.

Some forms of marginalization can’t be helped.

Some people have cerebral palsy.

The places I frequent downtown, I often see a certain woman, who can’t be more than three feet tall.  Her clothes indicate she does some kind of office work.  I’ve never talked with her, but it’s certain she faces challenges other folk don’t face.

I myself have delayed sleep phase syndrome.  I tell that story here.

It’s up to you to make the best of your situation, whatever that may be.

The next several chapters look at various ways disadvantaged people often marginalize themselves.  For yourself, choose better.  Choose the best.